This week in the “Get Your Mind Right” Facebook Live, we discussed the top 5 things that are holding you back from pursuing your passion.
Could it be Fear? Money? Pride? It could be all three and even more.
In the latest live stream, I broke down how we can start to kick fear to the side and break free from our limiting beliefs so we can build successful brands and businesses.
Check out the live stream or if you prefer to read, the blog post follows below.
And check out the COMMUNITY LOVE from our awesome brand builders about the live stream:
1. Fear of Failure
We currently live in a fear-based society (or perhaps we’ve always lived in one) that preys on our biggest insecurities.
All you need to do is turn on your local news at 6pm to find out what you need to be afraid about today.
And all of this fear-based programming paralyzes you into doing anything for yourself and you self-sabotage yourself in staying small.
But lemme ask you this, were you afraid of spending thousands of dollars to go to college to “hopefully” find a job? Nope.
And you know why? Because we are taught and conditioned that going to school will make us successful. If in this very moment you are working a job that is totally unrelated to what you went to school for, didn’t you already technically fail? #NoJudgement
The point is there are no guarantees in life.
Don’t be afraid to start something on your own, instead of going to a 9-5 that you loath just to complain.
Take a chance on yourself for once instead of putting your faith into a system that doesn’t have your best interest at heart.
Believing in yourself is so, so, so important to build a successful brand and business.
And again, I’m going back to all the liesssss that we’ve been taught by society to keep us playing small.
Lies like we’re not good enough, not important enough, loved enough, worthy enough, just enough.
Instead of doubting yourself, your brilliance, your magic, and your expertise, start doubting the voice that says you’re unqualified.
Because my friend, the devil is a liar.
I’ve gone through self-doubt in every venture I’ve started.
I had self-doubt when I started my own YouTube channel.
I had self-doubt when I became a sportscaster.
I had self-doubt when I started my own business.
But in order to keep pushing forward, my belief in self always had to remain bigger than my insecurities.
3. Opinions of Others
There are so many of you that allow the opinions of others to hold you back from going after what you really want in life.
And it took me a reallyyy long time to learn that when people say negative things about you, they are just projecting their own limiting beliefs about themselves onto you.
Let that sink in for a moment.
You have to understand that most people who’ve never been where you’re trying to go, won’t understand what you’re trying to do.
Parents can become the biggest dream killers not because they don’t want you to succeed but they feel that keeping you small is a way to protect you.
On the flip side, your friends might not want you to succeed because they don’t want you to do better than them.
Your friends should want to see you succeed. They should clap and cheer and encourage you all the time.
If not, you probably need to find new friends. #RealTalk
You cannot live your life for other people, you have to live life for yourself.
Don’t waste your time focusing on the opinions of others because it’s not going to get you to where you want to be.
Comparison cripples our confidence and compromises our calling.
A lot of you have this burning desire to pursue your own thing but because you don’t have a million followers on Instagram, you think it’s too late to start.
Here’s a newsflash for you: everyone starts at ZERO.
When you obsess about what others are doing, you extract another limiting belief that “you’re not doing enough” or “there’s no point in starting” or “you’re so behind.”
Listen, it’s never too late!
If I got stuck in a comparison mentality, I would have never started my online business and you wouldn’t be reading this blog post right now.
There are tons of online branding and marketing experts out there with hundreds of thousands of followers (Hello, Marie Forleo, Amy Porterfield, James Wedmore!) but those experts just inspire me to know that if they can build a freedom-based business than so can I.
Don’t focus on where other people are at, just focus on how YOU can get better at your craft every single day.
Invest in new skills, invest in hiring a coach, just invest in your learning and you won’t have time to be looking at other people because you’ll be soaking up all your time focusing on yourself.
Focus is probably the most important skill you need to enter a big future. And I’m not gonna lie, the internet is a gift and a curse because you can use it to build an empire or you can use it to keep you distracted and stuck scrolling on Instagram and binge watching Netflix five hours a day.
Distraction is just fear in disguise.
You distract yourself by watching other people’s profiles because you’re afraid to do. the work.
Distraction is a way that you intentionally self-sabotage yourself from going after your dreams.
You have two choices: You can either choose the pain of doing nothing, staying stuck, and keeping yourself distracted, or you can choose the pain of discomfort, uncertainty, and growth to get to where you want to be.
Choose the latter, own your greatness, and start branding your brilliance.
Nadine is a former television broadcaster turned digital marketing strategist and educator. The Trinidadian-Canadian teaches content creators, entrepreneurs, and side-hustle bosses how to market and monetize their skills online. When Nadine isn’t helping high achievers build their brands, you can find her reading a book or jamming to the latest DJ Private Ryan soca mix.